Do we really understand how powerful our thoughts are? Do we really think about our thinking? Like most things in life, if we are not consciously engaged, then things are just happening and we are going along for the ride.
Winning the battle of the mind to win at horsemanship requires that we find the thought patterns that hinder us. Negative thoughts steal our motivation, energy and joy. In finding the lies we can tell ourselves the truth and motivate ourselves to grow in our personal lives and in our horsemanship.
Step 1. Identify what I am thinking.
We are constantly playing tapes of dialogue in our heads. Some are good. Others are not. We typically are not conscious about our thought life until we are challenged to stop and think about it.
Write down my thoughts. List them like this:
Thought # 1, “I have only ten minutes. I can’t get much done, so I’ll wait until tomorrow.”
Thought # 2, “If I had someone to ride with I would spend more time playing with my horse.”
Thought # 3, “She makes it look so easy. I am just so stupid to not be able to do it like her.”
Step 2. Tell myself the truth.
Analyze your thoughts. What messages are you telling yourself that are true, and which are not true? Truth, partial truth, lies. Take your list from Step #1 and write the truth beside the partial truth or lies.
Thought #1. The truth.
A relationship with a horse is not characterized by getting tasks done. It is about being with the horse and communicating.
In ten minutes you can:
-spend undemanding time
-check response to pressure in different zones
-practice tying, hoof and farrier prep, or bridling
Thought #2. The truth.
This season of being alone gives you the focus time you need to get to know your horse and prepare your horse for future times with other human and equine friends. Embrace the season and build for the future.
Thought # 3. The truth.
Yes, she could be making it look easy. But how many hours of struggle and play did she put into getting what you are seeing now? Someone’s personal journey with their horse is not a commentary on your brain intelligence and skill. It is just where they are at now.
Most people have skills and talents to various degrees, and most people can learn new skills at various times and degrees. Rejoice that she is reaping the rewards of the hours she has put into her relationship, or rejoice that she is naturally gifted, or that her horse is easier than yours. But know that you can succeed and you can reap the benefits of time and effort too.
Step 3. Operate from my new thoughts.
Consciously tell yourself the truth. When you catch yourself playing those old negative tapes, stop and replace the message with the truth.
Keep your list handy and re-read it when you hear yourself thinking or saying those old lies. And watch how your new mind set will reap the fruitfulness of actions that will make you progress at horsemanship.
Identifying the untruths, or lies may not be easy because we truly believe these mind messages. How do we know if the message is a lie or truth? Negative thoughts lead to negative feeling, which lead to negative actions.
Look at where your current thinking is getting you and figure out where you want to go. Then see the gap between the two and the evidence will show that the messages you told yourself are not helping you to win at horsemanship.
Let’s talk. Do you struggle with winning the battle of the mind? Have you identified the negative messages you tell yourself but struggle to know the truth? Need some help? Leave a comment, or email me and I can help you.
Written by Rose Standish, Life Coach, Biblical Educator and Author
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